Out of Favor

Well.  We have had a new development.  Mae has fallen out of favor with the favorite….meaning my brother and sister in law.  It all happened last May and came to a head last September when I made my brother aware of a few things he did not know about.  In a nutshell…and there is way to much to explain, my nephew graduated last year.  We went to see him graduate and I thought…I…we all had a grand time.  Mae accused my sister in law and brother of all sorts of crazy things that did not happen.  Months later in September Mae called my brother and demanded that he leave his wife and three kids and move back home to live with her and take care of her.  REALLY???

The only way I knew about it was that my brother called me and asked me if I had spoken to her recently.  No.  I had not.  She basically had been ignoring me here for about 6 months.  That was all good.  No contact means no crazy.  Now it all begins again.  He told me what happened and that she had called him a 2nd time demanding the same thing.  He had put it off to her having a crazy spell but the 2nd call made him realize she was serious.  I was amazed.

I then explained to him alot of things that he did not know about how Mae felt about his wife.  At this point he had not mentioned the call to his wife but now he would have to.

They basically have disowned her.  They will not take her calls or letters and will not let the kids visit.  Mae come from a time when black and white relations were not good and she is still in the frame of mind. She is a racist.  Her daughter in law is white and that has always been a problem.  Until now it was a problem that my brother and sister in law did not know about.  She had kept it hidden but now it has all come out.

All their married years I have been hearing all the racist comments she had made about my sister in law and I kept it all to myself.  I was not going to be the one to tell my brother who she really felt.  Not my place.  Finally racist has reared its ugly head so far up that it all came out.  I just clarified the situation for my brother.

Mae is still under the delusion that she has done nothing wrong.  It is a problem that has been caused by my brother and sister in law.  It is imaginary.  I was with her for my nephews graduation weekend and all the crazy things that she says my brother and sister in law did and said to her never happened.  We were all together the entire weekend in the same rooms and I never heard any of the crazy things she is claiming.  It is almost like we had to be in 2 different places.

So, Mae is on the outs with her favorites.  She has done the most for them in turns of helping financially and loving and now they have nothing to do with her.  Sad.  Now she is trying to put me in the middle. She calls them and they hang up on her.  She writes and sends card for holidays and their birthdays.  They write return to sender on them.  Rightly so.  If they knew what I have always know for the past 10 years, this would have happened many years ago.

 

 

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Precious Black Swans

I had the opportunity to see Precious yesterday. I checked it out from the library. It has to be one of the most disturbing movies I have seen in quite awhile. I meI had the opportunity to see Precious yesterday. I checked it out from the library. It has to be one of the most disturbing movies I have seen in quite awhile. I mean. I guess I feel a connection because I too suffered some abuse as a child for quite a while. I wonder if abuse, if portrayed on the big screen would all be so disturbing? I wonder. I suffered a lot. About half way through I was wondering if Precious would ever be able to get away. I thank god she did. Mothers. Some are just biological. They spit you out into the world with no sense of giving a baby any of the skills to survive and in fact, do all they can to thwart any upward growth. Only by change and the grace of God and the help of others do a few manage to see the light, break free and end the cycle.

Precious. She was anything but that to her mother.

Black Swan. Black Swan. What can I say. I saw this movie too. It was a movie weekend. It took me a while to realize the main actress/ballerina was mentally ill. She had to be schizophrenic and I think even had some sort of dis-associative disorder. I think she was even having some sort of personality split. The movie was well done but again….why did not that mother get that child some help? She needed some medication.

Precious black swans.  May you always find the strength. Somehow.

I did.

 

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